The Event...

Sunday, February 1, 2009

This is a short post to place on record how the event went.

I couldn't go and I know I missed something great. My mother went as a special guest. She went with her best friend and a few close relatives and friends - she needed lot of moral support, I am sure. She was asked to light the inaugural lamp. The chief guest and the speaker spoke kind words about my father as they both knew him well. It was very well attended and there were several people who told my mother that they made it a point to attend the speech mainly because it was in the memory of my father. There were many people who came and told my mother that my father's lectures and talks used to be mesmerizing and that they were huge fans of his. The event was covered by local media.

Needless to say, my mother was overwhelmed by the whole experience. She said she had a tough time keeping her emotions in control.

We have not done the usual practice of enlarging his photograph and keeping it in the living room with a garland around it. Both my mother and I could not somehow bear the thought of doing that. Even for my wedding, there was a talk of having my father's photograph enlarged and displayed so that I could take his blessings. Luckily, my mother, who knew my thoughts on the matter, refused. I am glad, because weddings are emotional enough without having you reminded of the biggest loss in your life.

My mother said that her conviction that we did the right thing by not having the photograph enlarged just became stronger after the event. The organizers had displayed life size photographs of my father on either side of the stage. My mother said she felt like he would just walk down the steps. After several years, she came home that night expecting him to be there and wanting to talk to him about the event. Needless to say, she could not go to sleep without medication that night.

I wonder...does time really heal?

7 other wanderers:

Reflections said...

Again.....I dont knw what to write...the post is such that anything I write here is superfluous.
Just happy everything went off well & my best wishes with u.

Reflections said...

I almost didnt see the question down there...does time really heal???
I dont knw for sure Wannabe but just think tht over time we accept the loss and gradually we start focussing on the happier times we shared, instead of the loss itself.

agnes said...

So emotional... I don't even know what to say.

colours said...

The post moved me so much - I could see Aunty there and I do not think I can imagine what she felt when she was there.

I do not think time heals such feelings. The question is - is it something we want healed?

WannabeWriter said...

@Reflections: true... I think losing a loved one - like a parent or worse a child is something you never do get over...other things probably do heal with time...

@Agnes: :) Happy to just have you around... :)

@colours:You are right, you know...healing will happen only when the love goes away...so rather not be healed!

Tys on Ice said...

nah...time doesnt heal...u just learn to deal with it....and go on with the moments...hugs.

WannabeWriter said...

@tys: I know! Thanks a lot.. :)

 
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